What is midlife crisis?
‘Midlife crisis’ is distress experienced by someone experiencing intense dissatisfaction with their life. The symptoms include feeling unfulfilled in life, intense feelings of nostalgia, chronic reminiscence about the past, feelings of boredom, emptiness and meaninglessness, impulsive, often rash actions, dramatic changes in behaviour and appearance, marital infidelity or constant thoughts about infidelity, constantly comparing oneself to others, who seem happier or more fulfilled and intense feelings of regret. A midlife crisis can lead to a trauma response in people, so utilising a trauma-informed approach to recovery is beneficial.
While trauma can be physical, it is often emotional and psychological. A midlife crisis is not just about specific events, it can also refer to how you are left feeling afterwards and the cognitive dissonances you might be experiencing.
When we experience trauma, we can become emotionally dysregulated as our anxiety and overwhelm increases. That arousal of emotions triggers our fight or flight mechanism, leading to panic/ fear driven emotions as our sympathetic nervous system becomes activated. When we become overwhelmed by this mechanism, we can often become frozen by it, dissociating, shutting down and feeling hopeless. Left unprocessed, traumas can also reshape our core self and make us unable to function. We might feel a host of emotions, some of which are explained in this diagram:
At Naked Midlife Crisis, we deliver a structured and supportive 4-month coaching program to support the healing and recovery from such a trauma by teaching techniques to stabilize and deactivate that trauma response. Run by Adele Theron, a highly trained Trauma coach, this coaching approach helps you to pinpoint and project manage the triggers from that traumatic time which continue to live on in your day to day life. Whereas therapy focuses on the trauma itself, coaching focuses on strategies and tools to move forward. Coaching is a forward-focused approach which builds healing strategies to deal with those triggers that come up in your day to day life, teaching you to deal with them proactively.
This coaching approach is educational and builds insight, so you can learn how to support yourself to overcome the overwhelm mechanism using a host of techniques you will learn on the program. The program is not designed for people who have acute psychiatric conditions. Those conditions are better supported with medicalised support. If you want to check if the program is a good fit for you, book a Clarity call with someone on our team to talk through if the coaching approach is a good fit for your situation.
You might also want to consider The Clearing retreat.